In the years I’ve been active on Twitch I’ve become a member of different communities built by some of my favorite streamers. I’ve become a mod in several of them, some I’m just color commentary, and some I’m just a well known lurker. Most of them have come and gone, people migrating to Beam/Mixer or just no longer streaming, some I’ve just moved on from. But earlier this year I stumbled into a new community that I’ve really come to enjoy and make friends in.
If you have me on Twitter you’ll have noticed that I’ve been hanging out in TheMommyGamers channel a lot. I’m there for every stream, whether it’s for 5 minutes or the entire cast. I’ve acquired a ban hammer there and a lot of new friends. I’m even more active in their Discord than I am my own!
As the name would suggest, it’s a community of mostly parents who are gamers and run by a few moms. They have a website, a podcast, YouTube and Twitch. I’ve been reading, listening, and watching since January. I’m supporting by being both a Patron (via Patreon) and a Twitch subscriber (the first one in fact!). But more importantly I’m participating.
I mentioned being a mod, though I don’t have to do much of it. I participate through being very active in chat when the stream is live, chatting in Discord when it’s offline, and playing on days when there’s multiplayer action available.
None of the above is normal behavior for me really. A lot of my Twitch experience as a viewer has been to randomly chat in small bursts – which is kinda a reflection of how I interact in groups offline. I’m an observer. A hardcore introvert. Someone who was once extremely shy and socially anxious. So it’s still surprising me every day when I’m actively reaching out to make connections with people in our little community. I actually care about this one.
And it seems to have started spreading. While I don’t have time to dedicate myself to multiple communities like I do to TheMommyGamers, I have noticed that I’m much more vocal in other streams now. And it’s improving the overall Twitch experience and makes me happy. Plus it’s really going to help me one I finally get back to streaming for building up my own community.
More than anything I’m really glad to be making new friends of a different type. The people I’ve connected with most in this new community are more my age group, fellow parents, and generally just really down to earth, no bullshit drama individuals. And that’s exactly who I need around me at this stage of life.
Gone are the days of dealing with other people’s petty problems or drama causing antics. I haven’t the time nor energy to even entertain that anymore. It’s not worth all the hassle. I’ve grown up a lot over the last few years of being a mom and having another baby is just adding to my need to streamline life – cutting out every little piece that doesn’t give me some sort of advantage or happiness. It’s a slow process but I’m getting better at recognizing what can stay and what needs to go the way of the dodo.
And with my new supportive group of friends I’m even more confident the life ahead of me is going to be everything I can make of it. Just might take a little while to make it truly great. And that’s okay.